~ I want a kitten ~
But i'd settle for this illustration… for now.
Tomato Cat Time by The Dancing Cat
~ Trust, gratitude & inspiration ~
Pssst. I'm doing a wholeheARTed giveaway with the very inspiring Ms Brene Brown today to celebrate the conclusion of her fantastic book read-along, and to spread some cupcake happiness on this TGI Friday:
I'm grateful for the new yoga centre that has opened five minutes from my house, and for yesterday's discovery of a free running class I can join on Wednesday evenings. If the exercising is easy to get to I'm more likely to stick with it.
I'm inspired by these fabulous Moleskine cahiers on Etsy. The brown covers are just begging to be decorated and it pleases me no end that some creative souls have done just that. I've probably mentioned my fetish for Moleskines too many times on this blog, but i can't help it – there's something magical about those notebooks, with their super smooth pages and no-nonsense covers. Maybe it's because I use them for my diaries and the magic comes from the words i write, the soul searching and brain excavation – whatever it is, I'm hooked.
Peacock notebook, $12 by Mulberry Muse; sun journal, $9 by Blancucha; sunflowers journal, $12 by Shoofly; tweet notebook, $3 by Mamaroots
~ Liquid sunshine ~
It's Day Five of the new juice obsession and so far so good. New juicer is performing well and is easy to clean, which is essential. I just made the most delicious beverage I've tasted in a long time, so i wanted to share it here in case there's anyone out there who has been feeling as crap as me lately and wants to try something new – we can rebuild ourselves, people!
2 apples (Royal Gala)
1 carrot
1 slice lemon with rind on (unwaxed)
quarter of a yellow pepper
1 inch chunk cucumber
1 inch broccoli stem
1 inch slice raw beetroot
The recipe ( 'Detox Special' taken from Jason Vale's book, The Juice Master – which came free with my juicer) also includes celery but i just can't stomach that heinous vegetable, so i left it out. Your juice will look like this:
Amazing, right? Tastes even better. I am completely converted.
When i was getting ready to move last year I knew i was entering into a new period of my life. I had a list in my head of things to do to get to where i want to be, something along the lines of
1. Move to Bath
2. Create meaningful work
3. Get healthy
4. Fall in love
so nothing too taxing, eh? Of course, once i committed myself to changing my surroundings, things slowly started to fall into place – all it needed was that initial fingers-crossed jump forward to get all my planets and galaxies in alignment. Mind you, a lot of the time the falling into place is more of a crash-landing or arse-kicking – a month long flu-y virus and suddenly i'm fast-forwarded into Phase Three. Not before time though, truth be told.
~ Juice, Clooney & fish ‘n’ chips ~
I've been tagged to do a meme by the very talented and lovely Stephanie – it's been so long since I've done one and it's been the perfect antidote to my hormonal brooding today…
What is your current obsession?
My new juicer. I've committed myself to making fresh juice daily, in my bid to get healthier and stave off stress. Today: carrot, apple, cucumber, broccoli and ginger. Tomorrow I'm going to see how it tackles spinach…
What is your weirdest obsession?
I find it (almost) impossible to flush the toilet without first putting the lid down; i once read that with every flush millions of tiny droplets of loo water come flying out and land everywhere, and from then on i had to put the lid down. I don't know if that's weird or simply OCD.
What are you wearing today?
Nothing glamorous enough to mention here – comfy clothes so i can sit at my desk and write all day.
What's for dinner?
Leftovers from last night: vegan stew of butter beans, onion, potatoes, peppers and tomatoes with smoked paprika and thyme, served with brown rice (first made by Claire aka BB)
What would you eat for your last meal?
I want to concoct something fancy that would include all my favourites like risotto, prosciutto, peas, nectarines, artichokes, sea bass, mint, Moroccan-spiced chicken yadda yadda, but i know that on my very last night on earth I'll be craving fish & chips with mushy peas and lots of vinegar and ketchup. Sad but true.
What's the last thing you bought?
The new album from Phoenix on iTunes, two hours ago. It's excellent.
What are you listening to right now?
See above.
What do you think of the person who tagged you?
I think Stephanie is an insanely talented artist who i admire greatly. I love how she promotes her fellow artists on her Artists Who Blog site – I was lucky enough to be interviewed by her in April.
If you could have a house totally paid for, fully furnished anywhere in the world, where would you like it to be?
San Francisco.
If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go?
New York or LA to have a coffee with one of my girls.
Which language do you want to learn?
Poetry
What's your favorite quote (for now)?
I love this new one i found by Dorothea Lange: 'While there is perhaps a province in which the photograph can tell us
nothing more than what we see with our own eyes, there is another in
which it proves to us how little our eyes permit us to see.'
What is your favorite colour?
Today: pomegranate red.
What is your favorite piece of clothing in your own wardrobe?
My jeans
What is your dream job?
I'm beginning to feel like I'm doing it already. Teaching my Unravelling classes is going above and beyond all my expectations and proving to be such a humbling and wonderful thing to facilitate and participate in, and that is all down to my students and how willing they are to excavate and share their lives and selves. If you add in a two-book deal from a top publishing house (or even an agent at this stage) and i would be doing my perfect job.
What's your favourite magazine?
UK Elle Decoration; The Week
If you had £100 now, what would you spend it on?
Yoga lessons
Do you admire anyone's style?
Charlotte Gainsberg, Helena Christensen, Kate Moss, Emmanuelle Alt
Describe your personal style?
Preppy in the winter, Portobello girl in the summer.
What are you going to do after this?
Make lunch then post the new writing exercise for my Unravellers on the e-course blog.
What are your favourite films?
Last week's fun: Yes Man; fail safes: anything sci-fi or with Clooney in (this evening i'm watching Burn after Reading); always: Desperately Seeking Susan
What's your favourite fruit?
White nectarines, cherries, papaya
What inspires you?
Other artists and disciplines, books, walking aimlessly, sunlight, my sister
Your favourite books?
I turn to The Dance by Oriah Mountain Dreamer and Let Evening Come by Jane Kenyon again and again.
Do you collect anything?
Badges, vintage cameras, retro glassware and ceramics
What are you currently reading?
Just finished Valley of the Dolls (a rip-roaringly entertaining read!), just started Middlesex, dipping into Real You Incorporated
Go to your book shelf, take down the first book with a red spine you see, turn to page 26 and type out the first line:
"brief, tick-tock the biological clock, and that message is thrown at us over and over again."
~ from page 26 of Bitch by Elizabeth Wurtzel… Hmmm, interesting
The rules :
1. Respond and rework; answer the questions on your blog,
replace one question that you dislike with a question of your
invention, add one more question of your own.
2. Tag eight other people. (i don't like to tag people as i know we're all busy, so if you want to play along, leave a comment so i can come read your answers :)
~ Lemon sherbet ~
I met a lovely woman last week whose story has stayed with me into today. Her youngest child was born with cancer and at just two-weeks old was undergoing chemotherapy. Can you imagine? The poor little mite had a cancerous tumour on his liver and the doctors feared the only way to cure him was with a liver transplant; removing the tumour was looking impossible, yet when they operated they discovered they could remove it completely and now the boy is a rambunctious five-year-old who is happy and healthy. I'm probably missing out key parts of the story, but what impressed me the most was that rather than rage at the universe this inspiring woman did something practical: she decided to retrain in reflexology and aromatherapy so she could support her son's healing alongside traditional medicine.
And that's what we do, isn't it, we try to make the best of a bad situation; we turn lemons into lemonade. Or a lemon meringue pie. Or lemon sherbet. We fall down and think we'll never get up again, but we do, and as we keep walking along the path we learn to avoid the holes in the road and steer clear of the banana skins, knowing that if we trip and lose our balance again we'll right ourselves. Because we did before. Slowly we learn that we can survive anything, that we'll find that inner reserve of strength when we need it, when we have to fight to save someone we love, whether it's our family, friends or even ourselves.
I survived a big tragedy, and now i want to channel those inner reserves into my every day, not just save them for the emergencies that come along. I'm also going to have a reflexology session with the lady I met because i think she has magic hands.
~ A stitch in time ~
One of my favourite places to hang out these days is Etsy; there is so much talent there, so many nibble fingers making beautiful things. I love that the big hitters mingle with the grandmas knitting socks, that everyone has a chance to sell their wares, maybe for pin money or maybe to pay their mortgage – everyone can be a micro-entrepreneur. I'm always looking for new artists and photographers, but lately my eye is drawn to all things sewn. I don't have much of this in my home, but i'm falling into the habit of finding little gems for my sister and then buying us one each. It's an addiction, i tell you!
The Button Collector pillow, $30 by Egg-a-go-go; Little green rabbit, $50 by Abigail Brown; Pink bunny, $24 by Stitch Face; Bean brooches, $8 each by Gemma Bear
~ Blogging her way ~
You probably already know this amazing woman from her fabulous design blog, decor8, but for those of you who don’t I’d like to introduce you to Holly Becker, interior design consultant, uber blogger and now teacher too. As if daily blogging on all things style-related for her 25,000+ readers wasn’t enough, Holly is now sharing her (quite formidable) knowledge of blogging in her online class, Blogging Your Way. I was lucky enough to get a place in the first class and not only were Holly’s tips and advice invaluable to novice and seasoned bloggers alike but the warm and supportive atmosphere of her classroom made for a truly enjoyable four weeks. You also want to hear this lady on a podcast – such a velvety voice!
Okay, enough with the gushing – let’s meet her!
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SC: As well as being an interior design consultant you are the editor of a hugely successful blog – how did decor8 come about?
HB: I attended a writing workshop in Boston in January 2006 called The Perfect Pitch because I was representing a friend who sold handmade goods and I was trying to learn how to write a good press release for her sake. The instructor said, ‘If you don't have a website in this day and age, you don't exist’ and instead of applying this advice to my friend I applied it to myself immediately because I thought, ‘Hey, here I am a new design consultant and I have zero online presence!’ My clients always wanted access to my brain as they said and so, feeling like I needed to be more accessible to them, wanting to demystify the world of interior design (back then it felt very closed and pretentious), and with a desire to showcase the unknowns out there like my friend along with other indie artists I had met at the time (these were the days before the big craft fair and Etsy boom), I went home after the workshop and took a blog I had registered eight months prior in May 2005; I wrote my first post and called the blog decor8, a play on the word decorate because I love names with letters and numbers combined for reasons I'm not so sure of really. :) So that's how it all happened. Plus, at that time there was little inspiration to be found online from blogs anyway as few existed that spoke to me and my personal style.
Did you have a dollhouse as a child? In other words, was this path an inevitable one for you?
Yes, I had a dollhouse – I constructed rooms out of shoe boxes left over from my mother and her thing for pretty high heels, and my aunt handmade a wooden dolls house for me as well, complete with lighting, wallpaper and handmade dolls. My mother and aunt spoiled me with lovely handmade things and both of them gave me a real appreciation early on for the handmade arts and crafts. My aunt (who sadly passed away) was an art teacher and a fine-art painter who lived in several countries and spoke four languages, and my mother – who was trained as a floral designer and who also painted – was constantly decorating and crafting and helped me to become the Holly that I am today; I am forever grateful to these two ladies for all these did for me growing up. So yes, I had several dollhouses, dolls, toys; I was either playing teacher, writing and illustrating my own books, playing with my dolls, rearranging the furniture in our home or pretending to be a realtor or shop owner at a very early age. One thing I was always obsessed about: decorating my bedroom and arranging the top of my dresser perfectly. I had to have things neat and pretty, always.
Describe your perfect room – what does it look like, what’s in it, where is it?
High ceilings, large windows, a transom window over the doorway, ceiling medallion with a large modern light, wide pine floors with imperfections, fireplace with an ornate marble mantel (or a Swedish corner ceramic stove), crown moldings, and tons of sunlight. I'd have to be in a city, but not a huge city — around 500,000 occupants suits me fine. I need to be within at least an hour or two from the sea as the idea of being landlocked disturbs me. I also need to be very close to a forest for daily exercise. My room would be a creative studio where I could listen to music, write, paint, take photos, do some freelance styling work, etc. I also need to see trees from my window and sky. :)
You must be bombarded by so many new ideas every day – how do you organise your inspirations?
Most of my ideas are in my head but the ones that come out to play end up on my blog, decor8, where I organize my inspirations as I feel them on a daily basis. I also use a site called StumbleUpon to organize random bits that I collect online. Haus Maus, my other blog, is another spot where I organize things but mostly random feelings or things relating to German life and culture in Germany/Europe as I see it since I live in both New Hampshire, USA and Hannover, Germany part-time.
I love the concept of Kindred and it truly looks like a labour of love for both you and Ez (from design blog Creature Comforts)– where did the idea grow from and where do you see it going?
One day I was thinking of how much I enjoyed Ez and her pretty blog and so over a year ago now I emailed her and asked if she wanted to work on a project together and that I had some ideas. We had several phone calls and Kindred was born and now it's in full swing and we both love it and contribute equally to everything about it from the artists we select to how the site looks and feels and the themes we select for the quarter. We want Kindred to be a true reflection of us both, combined vs. looking more like Ez or too much like Holly. It's all about being equals and partners and friends and not so much about who does what – that’s not important to me at all. The focus is on the work of the artists we showcase, not on our individual talents, which as it should be.
What constitutes great style to you?
Art is subjective so great style to one may be boring to another. But you don't want that answer, now do you? Ok, so I think to define something as great I'd say it's classic or timeless, like denim jeans or a button down pullover – these are examples of design that may be a bit mundane in themselves but that are great in the sense that they are functional, timeless, and, if modernized by individual designers, can be lovely to wear and own if kept current – for instance, in the States we have mom jeans which are not really great style as the waistband is almost directly above the natural waistline of a woman but some still wear them, so again, it's about keeping things fresh and current. I think another example of great style is being true to yourself and showing that in what you do and who you are – not just buying something off the rack and thinking that if you wear it you'll immediately be transformed into this cool, hip fashionista. You should wear the clothes, the clothes should not wear you. Same goes with the home, a truly stylish home is one that looks and feels like the occupants and not the pages of a catalog or home they've copied from a magazine.
Do you have any collections?
Yes, magazines, decorating and craft books, art prints, stationery and paper! I also have a collection of vintage hats from the 20s-40s passed on to me from my mother. I once worked in a millinery shop in Boston where I made headpieces for brides, hair pins, hats and clips for bridal party members, and lots of fun hats for older ladies who frequently held events where hats seemed to be the theme of the night. Too cute, right? I met some great customers! As a result, I started to love hats (I was only 18 at that time) and enjoyed designing them, even designing for Boston area bridal shows for models who wore them in runway shows. I learned all about working with wire, horsehair, forms and fabrics and when I got married, I made my own headpiece and veil for my wedding. I no longer collect hats but I love the collection that I do have. I tend to collect 'things' in general, which means that I have a tag sale in my yard once a year in the summer when I sell lots of what I've collected or inherited from others over the year. I have a special room for my collection of things and when it starts to get crowded, I throw a big tag sale. I guess it's the shop owner in me coming out to play.
You recently taught your first e-course, Blogging Your Way – did you enjoy the experience of teaching and do you plan to run the course again?
Yes, I loved the experience of teaching, it was a lot of fun and the energy was great — my students really put themselves into it from actively participating in the forums to making a genuine effort to get to know and offer advice to fellow students. The homework assignments were especially fun, I loved seeing what each student had to report on each week. My next class will be longer, six weeks, and will kick off in September. I had planned to do another in June but realized that perhaps some would like to take some time with their family this summer (me included) so I thought that September would be a better timeframe for all. I will announce more, including a link to register, on decor8 August 10th.
In your opinion, what three things can a blogger do to improve their blog?
1) Write from your heart and don't water things down by over-editing and worrying about what people will think.
2) Treat your blog like a magazine in which you are the Editor-in-Chief. Take your work seriously and so will others.
3)
Think of what is missing out in the blog world and fill that void –
don't seek to copy what is already out there but instead, be yourself,
develop your voice and aesthetic, and show the world your unique self.
What books, music, art etc is inspiring you right now? Do you have any hot recommendations for us?
Nothing in particular with books, music and art – it's more 'themes' I guess you could say. A lot of the things I was into in my 20s are resurfacing again. For instance, I'm crazy into floral design (again), all things French (I had an eBay shop for 4 years that I ran on the weekends called Paris Mornings selling French linen, ribbons, trims and books), Australia and Japan (dying to travel to both destinations), decorating (as usual), mixed media art, gosh I could go on forever as I have a running list of interests a mile long at all times.
I love these books:
Bazaar Style by Selina Lake
any of the jeu de paume books
Domino: The Book of Decorating by Jennifer Needleman
Flea Market Style by Emily Chalmers
Midwest Modern by Amy Butler
At Home With White by Atlanta Bartlett
Indulgence Cookies and Indulgence Cupcakes (Murdoch Books)
IKEA has this great book that my friend Vanessa sent to me called Beloved Homes that is simply awesome.
Working from home can often mean you’re working 24/7 – how do you maintain a good work/life balance?
I was working 6-7 days per week but April 1st I decided to change my entire life/schedule and I've been so much happier because of it. Monday-Friday I work normal business hours but I always break 30 minutes for lunch and 3 hours for dinner and time with my husband, then I jump online again before bed to check email and then give myself about an hour before bed to read a book, stretch, listen to music and have a cup of tea so that my body and brain can start to power down so as to have a proper rest. I notice that when I go from the computer to the bed without this important hour of me time in between I am restless and sleep so badly. As for the weekends, I always have a ton of plans starting on Friday night until Sunday evening whether it's mundane tasks like errands or cleaning my house/laundry to going out with my friends or husband so I don't have much time for work then. I check email early Saturday morning but then I log off until late Sunday night when I check email again to get a slight jump start on Monday. However, on Saturday I allow myself ONE hour online and on Sunday ONE hour and that is it — I'm very strict with myself!
What’s your motto?
Live with no regrets. Say yes more than you say no. Show love when someone else's action would merit anger. Be the change you wish to see. Cherish your family and friends and don't be so quick to replace them when times are tough. Be loyal. Be honest. Be creative. Be yourself.
You're having a dinner party and can invite six famous people from the past or present – who would you choose?
I'm skipping this one because I quite honestly don't think I'd be interested in meeting anyone famous, dead or alive, at a dinner party. I almost don't want to ruin the mystery, people can be so boring during dinner parties anyway. I guess if you change the setting, I'd love to do jell-o shots with Martha Stewart, have Tony Bourdain make the appetizers, Morrissey to just sit there and complain, and see if Oprah is up for some karaoke. I imagine famous people would be much more fun and willing to share when intoxicated.
Thank you so much for joining us today, Holly! I'd write more but i have a sudden urge to go to Amazon and buy some books….
[Photo credits: Holly Becker]
~ We can rebuild her ~
Yes, i am wearing a blueberry face mask in this Polaroid; today is day one of what we will optimistically call the Rebuilding of My Body. It was so nice not to have to lie down for half an hour after my shower this morning – i am on the mend, and while I'm still coughing like an old man, i have so much more energy. I am also completely overwhelmed by my to-do list; suddenly there are no more excuses, everything must be done RIGHT NOW!
…which is exactly why i got ill in the first place.
I have a tendency to multi-task my thinking – do you do this too? At any given moment I will be thinking about no less than ten to 15 things concurrently, a many-layered cake of consciousness all jostling for my attention. I once described how I think – and what i think about – to my therapist, sheepishly looking her in the eye and asking, 'Doesn't everybody think like this?' She raised a single eyebrow. 'Not everyone, no,' she said.
So the over-thinking results in over-activity, many things started and many things left in a state of incompleteness. I'm crap at prioritising – everything is number one, and of course, that way leads to madness. Now that my workload has increased and I'm working – and pushing myself – harder than ever before, it's time to find a way to get everything done without burning out. As much as I'd like to be one I'm not a robot, i only have limited energy and time, so I need to get my body working at optimal efficiency while managing my time better (oh, if only it was as easy to do as typing that last sentence was!)
The Plan:
1. Take 30-minute lunch breaks – and eat away from my desk
2. Turn off computer by 7:30pm every day
3. Cut down on computer usage at weekends
4. Consider getting help, maybe a PA 2 days a month or a fortnightly visit from a cleaner
4. Walk in the park – 2 mornings
5. Join local yoga class – 1 morning
6. Cut out all caffeine
7. Modify diet to remove majority of wheat and sugar
8. Remember to take vitamins and supplements
9. Dust off my juicer and actually use the bloody thing
10. Continue as a non-smoking, teetotal, water-imbibing evangelist
Hmmm. i read this list and there is a rebellious teenager inside me who is pouting and telling me how boring all that sounds. To pacify her I will not be cutting all chocolate out of my diet – i mean, really, who would want to carry on if there wasn't the promise of chocolate to look forward to?!
Watch this space, people.
~ Photography squared ~
Making a video for Unravelling Week Three ~ a little show & tell :)
~ Gently does it ~
At some point during the last four weeks I mislaid my sense of humour (I think i left it in Starbucks) but today I feel a little lighter. It's raining outside, my family are all together by the coast and I'm not there so we've been Skyping each other so I don't feel left out; but I'm coughing less, my energy is increasing and I feel like I'm on the mend. At last. Hallelujah. I'm going to be easing myself back into working and blogging this week, but first some things that have been helping me smile again:
Pure genius: Awkward Family Photos
Deliciously naughty: Taffy Underhill
An oldie but a goodie: Business Time
My family:














