Something I’ve been pondering lately is how to balance my publically viewable life (ecourses, blogging & now a book) with my private life (everything else). How do i give as much of myself as I can — for that is what I feel called to do — while also maintaining some boundaries? At a couple of the book events last month I was asked how I felt about sharing so much of myself online and in a book, and my answer each time was this: there is actually a LOT that I don’t share. I don’t know why i feel so comfortable sharing the way i do here. I don’t mind talking about PMS or grief, or whatever I’m chewing on in that moment. I like to share the realisations i have as i really value when other people share the same, so i hope that whatever I’ve realised will be helpful to someone else experiencing a similar situation. I guess being able to write in such an open and expressive way does make it seem like i’m spilling my guts all the time, but in all honesty there’s a lot I keep to myself. I mean… of course, right? If i shared the minutiae that fills my head you’d all have switched off by now :)
I talk about setting your own personal boundaries as a creative blogger in Blogging from the Heart. I think it’s important to know what you are willing — and not willing– to share online. For example, I decided early on that I didn’t want to share details of my relationship with my love, that i wanted this blog to be a chronicle of my new life rather than a memorial to the past. When i’m in my next relationship I will no doubt have new boundaries to define, sharing my experiences in a way that respects the privacy of my new partner. It’s all down to personal choice and your own comfort levels, another reason why I love blogging so much — we set our own rules!
The other side of my online existence is my business. It still blows my mind that i even HAVE a business, because that was never my intention. In fact, I don’t really see what i do as a “business” at all. I see it as another part of me, one that’s so integrated into who I am and how I feel I find it hard to separate the two. It’s amazing that we are living in a time when people like me, someone who had no biz skills whatsoever (i’ve had to learn the hard way) can find a way to pay her rent with the power of her MIND. Because that’s what it feels like sometimes. Sharing knowledge and experience is such a time-honoured profession, and add in the internet and shazam — a whole new way of working has been born. Online biz is all the rage these days and I say hallelujah to that — so many people, women especially, are finding ways to support themselves using their talents and strengths. It’s exciting new ground, and I’ll admit I have days when i worry it will all fall away and I’ll be completely stuffed, but for now I try to trust that if I follow what feels true to me — sharing what I know, working with absolute integrity always, being of service — then I’ll continue building something that has value in the world. This is my hope and my intention.
Okay, i actually only came to this page to tell you about something new I’m launching soon. Ha! You see? This is what lives in my head — ponderings and more ponderings. Bringing it back to what I started saying, I’ve been looking at different ways I can put myself out there and be of use while still honouring my privacy. Meeting everyone on the book tour made me realise how much i love connecting with people. Truly connecting, heart to heart. In my courses I try to give as much of myself as I can, especially in Unravelling where I share my weekly
confessionals videos with the group. I also really enjoy teaching in person, though that’s harder to organise and I’m restricted by time and geography (and bloody work visa applications!). So after getting yet another email from somebody asking me the question I’ve been asked so often in the past, I’ve decided to try something new… Individual mentoring sessions.
One hour, one-to-one, on the phone or on Skype. One whole juicy hour where I can help you with your photography or writing or blogging or online courses. My four areas of expertise.
It won’t be coaching, because I’m not a coach. And it won’t be therapy, because I’m not a therapist. But if you’ve ever wanted to pick my brain about anything in my four areas of expertise, then I’m here for you and only you.
There’ll be limited spots each month as I know how easily i burn out energetically and I want these sessions to be really useful soulful exchanges. Loves, i am so excited to pilot this new (for me) way of working with people! I’m also considering something really special for when I move to London. Something in person. One-on-one. But I’ll share more about that once I’ve figured out the logistics.
So for now, if you’re interested in hearing more about the one-on-one sessions and would like to know when I open up the spots, pop your details in the box below and I’ll email you when I’ve fleshed out this new mission!