What if the source of all the peace, clarity and joy you’ll ever need already exists inside you?
After losing my beloved in 2005 I’ve spent the last 14 years on my own without a significant love relationship in my life. Grief came first, then the healing, the business building and the book writing. As I built my new life there wasn’t room for another — I was busy building a long overdue relationship with ME. As the years passed it became very clear that part of my soul work was to learn to be alone — truly alone. Having spent the first 32 years of my life attached to someone else — family, boyfriends, lovers — it was time to get to know the woman in the mirror, the one I’d studiously avoided.
In the beginning it was excruciating. Despite being an introvert I’d built my identity around other people — I simply didn’t know myself. As I slowly unravelled my past and healed my pain, I began to find new meaning and pleasure in the time I spent alone. Rather than finding ways to distract myself, I began to relish being in my own company. Because being alone doesn’t have to mean being lonely.
Being alone is being in the company of your truest soul mate — your SELF.
Everything starts with you. Your relationships with your kids, significant other, family, friends. Your work life. Your dreams and goals. The way you move through the world — all of it starts with YOU. You know the cliche of putting your oxygen mask on first? This is it. If you know yourself, trust yourself, can sit with yourself and feel what you feel, know what you know, you can be there for everyone else when they need you. By tapping into the core of who you are you can beam that powerful light back out into the world.
And here’s the thing: you don’t need to be single for a decade to get there (did you just breathe a sigh of relief?). I’ve created The Sacred Alone to help you practice spending soulful time on your own in a structured nurturing way. Life is busy but at our core there is peace — I’ll help you find it.
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Questions and Answers
WHAT DO I NEED TO DO THIS COURSE?
An email account and a computer. A journal and pen. Headphones would be nice to listen to the audios, but they’re not essential. The commitment to find 20 minutes of alone time somewhere in your day for 14 days — it might be tricky some days but it’s not impossible.
CAN ALL OF THIS REALLY BE ACHIEVED IN JUST 20 MINUTES A DAY?
Yes! The key is to commit to doing the practice: 5 minutes to read the short essay, 5 minutes to meditate and 10 minutes to journal. We’re starting with 20 minutes because that’s do-able for most people, but if you wanted to spend, say, an hour devoted to you in the morning you can, of course! I predict that by the end of our 14 days together you’ll be ready to stretch your Sacred Alone time to an hour or more (if you haven’t already!)
I’VE NEVER MEDITATED BEFORE - CAN I STILL TAKE PART?
Absolutely! The meditations and visualisations are short and simple, making them ideal for the beginner. We don’t need to sit in silence for hours on end — five minutes is enough for our purposes. Plus they are audios so I’ll guide you every step of the way.
I DON’T LIKE SPENDING TIME ALONE - IS THIS GOING TO MAKE ME UNCOMFORTABLE?
Part of our fear of the alone is what might happen when we’re in it — what if I can’t control myself? What if I feel lonely and sad? What if I’m just flat out bored? So I’m inviting you to commit to spend just 20 minutes a day with me and I’m giving you something to *do* so you’re not just sitting aimlessly in silence. It’s like building a foundation for what might come later — once you know you can sit for 20 minutes with yourself, you’ll trust that you can handle more. Give it a try — I promise I’ll be gentle with you!
WHAT CAN I EXPECT TO GET OUT OF THIS COURSE?
I’m hoping that once you get a taste of how sweet the Sacred Alone is, you’ll get hungry for more of it. You may find yourself scheduling in afternoons just for you, or maybe a yearly weekend on your own. At the very least you’ll get 20 minutes a day just for you, which you can make as special or as simple as you like. You might want to read the emails and listen to the audios while sipping your morning coffee. You might prefer to find your Sacred Alone at the end of the day — or anywhere inbetween. Candles and hot drinks are nice accompaniments to this work.
CAN I CONNECT WITH OTHERS DOING THE COURSE?
Yes — we’ll have a private (and totally optional) Facebook group where we can share our experiences and support each other.